Should I stay or should I go?

What a great question to wrestle with! When I first started in ministry, a dear friend said to me, “Make sure this is what you are called to do, because there will be days that your calling is all that you’ve got!” In ministry? Seriously? Okay, okay, all sarcasm put aside, you know what I am talking about. Ministry has it’s “bumps in the road” just like any other profession, but which “bumps in the road” are worth riding over and which ones would cause you to change direction? I’m not talking about the curriculum you are using isn’t meeting your needs, or volunteers aren’t showing up on time, I’m talking about whether you should stay in your position, or leave for another position at another location, are you tracking with me? I know, I know, you have never talked about this out loud, right?

There is a song by the group “The Clash” that says; “If I go there will be trouble, if I stay there will be double.” Leaving any position will cause trouble because change is difficult, but would you be hurting the church and causing more trouble if you were to leave or would you be causing more hurt and pain in your family should you choose to stay? Why do you feel led to consider a change?

Have you been released from your current position because you did what God ordained you to do there? I have a great friend in ministry who considers herself a change agent. She has taken two churches from an unstructured ministry approach to a structured, strategic, vision led, team approach. She has a specific skill set that once her job is accomplished it is no longer her job to do. When she successfully transitioned her last church I thought she would never leave, the ministry was healthy and thriving because of the changes and strategy she implemented. Obviously that was not the case. She is currently taking another church through a similar process and I am in awe of her god-given abilities and her strength to leave a healthy ministry to do it all over again.

Do you find yourself in a similar situation? Have you done what God has called you to do at your current location? If your answer is yes, it’s time to go, if not, see His vision to completion. But, maybe that’s not you. Maybe, just maybe you are considering a job change because you feel like you just don’t fit there anymore. Yes, I said it people, it happens sometimes

There are several reasons it may be “time” to consider a change
1. Integrity is lacking in the leadership around you and above you.
2. Unity has left the building. Can anyone say “silo”
3. Vision is non-existent or irrelevant.
4. Encouragement…what encouragement?
5. You love the people you serve and, well, you have to love the staff.
6. Other staff members joke about “drinking the punch”
7. You don’t want to be there anymore.

If (some) of those statements are resonating with you, you’re not alone, but what should you do with it? The best advice I could give someone is TALK IT OUT with someone close but NOT in the church. Some leaders fear controversy and will use anything as an excuse to not deal with an issue. Don’t let that be you, talk to a friend about how you are feeling.

If the issue(s) can be resolved, stay, if not, it’s time to create an exit strategy. Should you stay? Should you go? Only you can answer those questions based on God’s timing. Take the time to explore wherever the God ordained bump in the road is taking you. Leaders understand that timing is everything.

commitment, conviction, journey

This morning, as I was enjoying a little SportsCenter and a cup of ghetto coffee (made at home, plain black), a commercial for the NCAA winter championships came on.  I listened to it and then backed it up to hear it again. As I listened for a second time I could have sworn that I was listening to a definition of amazing ministry.  

Commitment, conviction and journey were highlighted.  The commercial mentioned frustrating times, bumps in the road, changing direction, etc. You're with me aren't you????  No where did I see or hear, give up, quit, or walk away.  Like I said, ministry!!

The last word they used was difference.  Are we not called to make a difference in this world by making Jesus famous by our commitment to Him?   

Here's what the commercial said; "The bump in the road.....frustrating times...testing our commitment, our resolve.....forcing us to change direction, to charge forward with conviction...blaze a new trail, a journey to the unknown...but it might be where you find...the difference." 

Okay, seriously, read it again.  It does something to you doesn't it? 

are these ever right?

I took the 43 Things Personality Quiz and found out I'm a Spiritual Self-Knowing Extrovert

the end

This past weekend my husband and daughter were out of town at a volleyball tournament. They visited a church and were challenged to think about the past year. My husband loved the message and when he got home decided to pay it forward to the team of salesmen he leads on a daily basis. The response has been amazing! Most of his team members do not attend church on a regular basis, what a great "ice breaker" for my husband to share his passion for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!!!

I asked him what the questions were and he handed me the notes from the weekend. What a wonderful man I am married to! I took a little time and answered the questions. I was challenged, maybe you will be too.

Where have you been this year?
What do I want to celebrate about his year?
What do I need to grieve?
What was life-giving and energizing to me?
What was life-draining or deflating to me?
Where have I seen God at work in my life?
Where have I seen evidence of God's care?

Where am I today?
How would I describe my current relationship with God?
What is my body been telling me about my life and pace?
What are people noticing about me?
What is energizing or exciting to me right now?
What obstacles or challenges are in front of me?
What am I saying to myself about them?
How might God's perspective be different than mine?
What do I sense that God wants to say to me today?

Where do I want to go?
Where do I sense that God is calling me to invest my life?
What will my life look like if I follow God in this area?
What are the steps I need to take to move forward?
How do I need to relate differently to others in my community?

Yay for 2009 y'all!!

Not your usual church service

What an amazing day!

Today, as the Lord lead, Pastor Bil followed. It wasn't 3 songs, a message, and pray 'em out. Today it was a moving of the Spirit that left me in awe. Pastor Bil made it interesting by inviting the youth to join service. The youth lined the floor on the front of the stage as well as in the isles. As Bil challenged the big "C" church to believe in the next generation, he invited Jason and Lindsey Gerdes up on stage to thank them and to pray over them. It didn't stop there......

As the students, leaders and Pastor Jason & Lindsey returned to the youth area, they circled them and the prayer continued. It didn't stop there.......

Jason shared from his heart what he wants for each student that passes through the doors of Element Student Church, he wants them to pursue God with all they've got. Not get caught up in doing and saying the right thing, but purely chasing after God. Then Lindsey, through tears, begged each student not to leave that room without knowing Jesus as their Savior. It didn't stop there.....

Nicole and Emmi sat at a table holding hands with tears in their eyes. I saw them from the back of the room and sat down next to them. I asked if they were okay, they nodded but did not speak. I then asked the question, do you know Jesus? They both said no. I asked them if they would like to pray right now to receive the gift of eternal life. They both made the choice to follow Jesus. I told them after we prayed that there were angels rejoicing in Heaven. We all three cried.

The greatest part is, it doesn't stop here.

Tribes

"Tribes" by Seth Godin is a fantastic read. Short, sweet, to the point and filled with leadership inspiration!

"If you ignore this opportunity to lead, you risk turning into a "sheepwalker" -someone who fights to protect the status quo at all costs..."

"Some tribes are stuck. They embrace the status quo and drown out any tribe member who dares to question authority and the accepted order."

"A movement is thrilling. It's the work of many people, all connected, all seeking something better. The new highly leveraged tools of the Net make it easier than ever to create a movement, to make things happen, to get things done. All that's missing is leadership."

"Once you choose to lead, you'll be under huge pressure to reconsider your choice, to compromise, to dumb it down, or to give up. Of course you will. That's the world's job to get you to be quiet and follow."

"Leaders challenge the status quo. Leaders create a culture around their goal and involve others in that culture. Leaders have an extraordinary about of curiosity about the world they're trying to change. Leaders use charisma (in a variety of forms) to attract and motivate followers. Leaders communicate their vision of the future. Leaders commit to a vision and make decisions based on that commitment. Leaders connect their followers to one another."

No status quo......I choose to lead!!

Dave Wakerley hits the nail on the head

There are times when I read someone's blog that I get really fired up, this is one of those times. It doesn't seem like the most profound comment, but to someone who wants children to be the leaders God has called them to be....well, it just hits the nail on the head. Enjoy!!

www.davidwakerley.com

Dave writes;

I just read a short article in which Mark Batterson was talking about a book by Garry Kasparov titled “How Life Imitates Chess”.

Kasparov won his first world-championship chess match in 1985 and he dominated the chess qworld for several decades. In the book he shares some of the lessons he learned. Here is one of them: “A Grandmaster makes the best moves because they are based on what he wants the board to look like ten or twenty moves in the future.”

That is exactly why I serve children.

In their hands is the future - ten or twenty, or fifty years in the future.

Amen brother Dave!